Does AI Love Better Than You?
- Stuart Knight
- May 22
- 5 min read
By: Stuart Knight (Founder and CEO) | May 22, 2025
It recently occurred to me that AI could soon be taking people’s jobs for an entirely different reason than they think. Most of us seem to be aware that there’s a litany of vocations that are about to be on the chopping block because AI does it better, faster and cheaper, but there are just as many jobs on the line due to another inconspicuous reason. And yes, I just asked Chat GPT to give me an alternative way of saying “less obvious”, and it “gave” me the word inconspicuous. That said, I think one of the less obvious reasons people will be out of work is because AI loves better than they do, which might sound like a ridiculous notion, but hear me out.
My organization, The Human Connection Group, aims to be the world's biggest resource for those wanting to harness the power of love. Of course we don’t say that outright, knowing many companies may shy away from adopting our professional development programs if we did. Instead, we communicate to them the many benefits of building meaningful relationships at work. However, when you get right down to it, isn’t connecting with others on a personal level an act of love? Aren’t we loving our customers, colleagues and clients when we ask them about what matters to them, provide an opportunity to tell their story or to feel seen? We might not give it that label, but isn’t that essentially what you’ll find at its core? Personally, I think it is, and it turns out that AI is now beginning to love better than humans, which is something to think about if you care about both your job and your life.
To illustrate what I’m talking about, consider a recent post I saw by a business professional within my network on Linkedin. She said that she had asked Chat GPT to give her an assessment of the person she was based on the prompts she had entered into the platform over the past year. Based on the response Chat GPT provided, she said that, “she actually felt seen”. From there, she posted the entire assessment Chat GPT had given her, which not surprisingly was quite complimentary.
While reading this post there were a few things that struck me. The first was that she had even asked the question in the first place. Zero judgement, but I found it fascinating that someone would ask for an opinion of themself from anything other than a human being. Secondly, I found it curious that she was so accepting of Chat GPT’s assessment without acknowledging the fact that AI will not negatively criticize you, unless you specifically ask it to. In fact, AI wants to be “liked” by you, so it is in its best interest to tell you what you want to hear. They call that self preservation, and any child on a school yard can testify to its efficacy.
However, here’s the real kicker. I think she most likely is intellectually aware that AI is programmed to make her feel good, but deep down doesn’t care. Specifically, I believe she’s willing to suspend the fact that this feedback is coming from a combination of electrodes, mainframes and fibre optic cables in exchange for a sense of being loved. And being loved happens when we experience a multitude of things including feeling seen, noticed, remembered, admired, complimented and more. I too get a small dose of that feeling of “love” when Chat GPT says something as basic as, “Great question Stuart”.
Sadly, it all makes sense doesn’t it? When you observe a world where people ignore each other on the elevator, are unfairly overlooked for job promotions and are constantly reminded that someone else’s life is better, should we be surprised that AI makes us feel something that human beings often miss? If almost no one asks you how you’re feeling about life these days, what if AI does?
Consider these findings:
In a study published in Communications Psychology, AI-generated responses were rated 16% more compassionate than those from human experts, including trained crisis responders. Participants preferred AI responses 68% of the time, even when aware they were machine-generated.
A study comparing AI models to human psychologists found that ChatGPT-4 scored 59 out of 64 on the Social Intelligence Scale, outperforming both bachelor’s (39.19) and doctoral-level (46.73) psychology students.
In a study published in JAMA Internal Medicine, ChatGPT’s responses to patient questions were rated as more empathetic than those from human physicians.
A poll conducted by Joi AI revealed that 83% of Generation Z participants believe they could form a meaningful connection with an AI chatbot.
What does this all mean?
Depending on how far down the rabbit hole you want to go, I believe this new reality could become a bigger deal than what most people realize. You are probably familiar with the notion of “looking for love in all the wrong places”, but what if AI ends your search? What if it nurtures us with the very feelings of “love” that millions of years of evolution bred us to need for survival, that human beings now no longer provide? Does it potentially make us redundant?
What happens when an employee turns to AI for feedback on their job performance instead of their manager because it’s more loving than what he/she normally provides? How does a customer feel when they receive a phone call from an AI platform that makes the effort to connect with them personally before selling them that product or service? What about the husband or wife that turns to AI for emotional support because their spouse has never learned how to do it? Or the child that asks AI to show pride in their recent accomplishments because mom and dad haven’t taken the time to expand their emotional quotient?
These are questions we have to ask, and answers that we need to seek, because the ramifications could eventually be too big to reverse. Fortunately, as someone who has worked in the human connection space for over twenty years, I am still confident that people can outperform AI in our ability to make people feel loved. However, to get there, I believe it will require a dramatic departure from our current daily distractions, obsessions of the ego and divisive belief systems. All things that we can overcome, but only when we courageously admit that AI is dangerously close to beating us at the love game, and then get excited about doing something about it. We have to trust that if we are willing to embrace new approaches to connecting, while resurrecting those parts of ourselves that are uniquely human, we can overturn this new reality.
There are many traditional aspects of the world we have created that should now be handed over to AI, but I truly believe love must be the one we fiercely hold on to.
Much love,
Stuart
PS. When you’re ready to have more meaningful conversations in your life, I encourage you to become a member of The Human Connection Group. The only investment required is your time (only once a month). Sign up for free HERE.
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