Are You Living Halfway or All In?

By: Stuart Knight (Founder and CEO) | April 15, 2025

A poker player going all in

Let’s go deeper with a question and have a self connection shall we?  Here it is. 

How good are you at going all in?  Let me explain.

I’m going to guess that you have friends who can easily commit to things, and friends who for some reason cannot.  You know, you’re planning a get together and some of them can say yes I’m in without hesitation, while others will always say I’m pretty sure I can, or I think I can, I should be able to, I might be having lunch with Taylor Swift that day, but for now I’m a strong maybe.  

Do you know these people?  I’m going to guess that you probably do.  I know these people, and while I truly love them as friends,  it always breaks my heart to see people I care about missing out on something so beautiful, which is the joy of going all in on something.  Because going all in is such an incredible thing to experience.  Even if it’s going all in on things that are not perfect.  Like going all in on a relationship that’s feeling a little stale, or your job that you might not even like, or the place where you live even if it’s not ideal right now, or going all in on your choice of becoming a parent even though it comes with little appreciation most of the time, or that vacation you’re second guessing or a get together with friends that’s happening during a busy time in your life.  

Because no matter what the situation may be, when you go all in on things, you get to make so many awesome declarations about yourself.  In some cases, you get to say, “Yes, this isn’t great, but I’m someone who is still going to make the best of it until my situation changes.”  Or you get to say, “I feel so lucky to be doing this right now, and for that reason, I’m going to really embrace it today.”  Or when your friends invite you to spend time together, you get to say, “You’re important to me, and I’m going to do everything I can to make that happen. I’m in!”

Because, when you choose to only go half in, you’re still saying something.  You’re saying things like, this situation sucks, and I’m going to let that be my focus, or this situation is awesome, but I’m not going to celebrate that or feel gratitude for that, or these people mean something to me, but I’m going to miss the chance to communicate that to them.

You see, here’s what I know.  Life will never be ideal, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t still go all in.  In fact, I think that going all in is what makes something that is not ideal, become ideal.  It’s how you get more of what you say you want.  Every situation you find yourself in is a new opportunity to send a message to the universe, to yourself, and to those around you about what matters, what you care about and how you want your life to unfold.  Things like feeling overwhelmed, or facing challenges in your relationship, or not loving where you live, or being frustrated by your job doesn’t make you unique.  But choosing to go all in regardless of your situation does.  So, as I always say to my children, dive in and don’t miss your chance to be awesome. 

Much love,

Stuart

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